As far as I know no such software exists or works well. The biggest thing I've seen is various costing models that would help estimate differing manufacturing processes.
As mentioned there's so many caveats and applied knowledge that I don't believe software is to the point of doing this type of engineering work well. Many issues, economics, material type, weld process selection, inspection criteria etc are dictated by the product or job therefore there's too many variables. Also a lot of the costing, etc is driven by the firm undergoing the work and what process capabilities they have.
Process selection is still one of those tasks that is best performed with the help of engineers with accumulated experience. Problems like this are why I have a job