Rick, You are not getting the copper hot enough, that is why the filler won't stick to it. You should be able to get filler rod from a HVAC distributer, they are copper silicon and may have silver as well. These will work without flux on copper to copper, but need flux for copper to steel. What We use here in the US is a flat strip, often with a trade name like Sil Flo, Sil Fos, or something similar. If there is a number from 0 to 15 following the name it is probably the silver content. Silver allows the material to have some working range in temperature, a sort of plastic state between fully melted and fully solidified. This makes it more tolerant of joint fitup. The copper will need to be at dull red heat or hotter for these rods to work.
A lower trmperature alternative is soft solder, 50/50 lead tin or lead free plumbing solder. I prefer to use a "Tinning" flux with these, particularly if soldering to steel. This type of solder melts in the 400+ F range. If much strength is needed the joints will need a fair ammount of contact area, as the solder is, as the name implies, soft.