Mike
I have absolutely no problem with my tax dollars going to help a disabled person be they a child, adult or senior. I have a lot of issues with a broken system that as you said puts you and your daughter in a catch 22. I also have issues with a broken system that has tons of perfectly able bodied people on it in much better health then I getting checks, using up resources for people who REALLY NEED THE HELP. I have an ex wife drawing SSI and every other program you can think of, she is nothing more then a social parasite/drug addict. I know other kin folk drawing disability checks that could cut way more firewood then I could in a day.
You bet there are real people in my community in need of help. There are vets who have to have charitable assistance because the goverment is NOT taking care of them as promised. """""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""""
I strongly dislike those people that ride and abuse the system and give it a black eye and mess it up for the people the programs were created for in the first darn place. Every time the Feds get the next big idea they overcomplicate it, usually over time, and over time the abuse and breakdown of the original idea become the status quo. We as citizens do not like it but in general we typically accept it and go on...then you have people like your daughter and disabled vets, caught in the middle, who are left with a derelict lumbering monster of a system that is inadequate (sorry) and will unlikely ever meet your true needs.
Best Wishes to you and your girl my friend.