So, Google 'Titanic Construction' and start reading.
At the last minute the crew tried to turn and avoid the berg. Hitting it more on the side instead of head on may have been their biggest mistake as the diagonal blow sheared most of the millions of rivets used to hold it together allowing it to gape open and no way they could close the sealable areas off fast enough nor the pumps being able to keep up with it. 3 years to build and 3 hours to sink.
Once past the hull the sides of the ship are thinner. It was going top speed (showing off) and didn't slow down though warned of danger in the area. The steel and iron used may have not been of the quality they were supposed to be but notice, iron. Brittle compared to materials used today. Take that with the angle of impact and most definitely you could 'break' it apart upon impact at the speeds it was going and the temperature that would have been involved with that much ice in the area.
And, for a different example than your hammer and ice cube: take and seal one end of a piece of tube steel. Then, fill the tube with water. Now, weld a cap on the other end and place it in a freezer. For quick results use a piece of 1" sq thin wall about 18" long. What happens. The tube with expand as the ice freezes and it will round it out and then break it, usually down the seam but not always. Look at fences, handrails, truck racks and other tubular steel items left out in the weather with spots where water can get in or condensation fills them up even just part way. Along comes winter and with the first cold night a guy goes out to his truck and the rack is all broken up.
You want to stand by that statement? (whoever made it that is) "no way ice can break steel" !
Let me know how that works out for you.
He Is In Control, Have a Great Day, Brent