I wrote this and printed, distributed to my children and select family in a time of strife.   I could have spent weeks on the prose of it all. I thought better to just be direct and spill my guts,,,,,usually works better.  I am going to post this here because I am sure we all have someone close who needs to think about it.  Love you guys.....probably my last post here, I have much to do.  My time is limited.  It is not a great way to say what I want. But deal with it .....good luck to all.

Why Life is not Working

I am not preaching or *****ing, I am writing this because I do not verbally communicate well with others.  I want to say something to you and if I write it down I will say it better.

Time

We all have it, all we have is limited, finite, in other words we only have so much of it.  The coolest thing about time is it truly is the most valuable thing we have, to ourselves and others.  Matter of fact the time you have is every bit as valuable as BILL GATES minutes and seconds and years.  He has just invested his better then us.  We can give it away by the hour on a job, or to our families or two maintain what we own in return for what have you.  Thing is we have only so much, how are you spending it?

What do I REALLY want from my life?

Very few of us actually know what we want….if we know it fewer still really get to it.  You cannot know what you really want unless you know yourself, like yourself and can be honest with yourself.  That’s a lot to consider.  Basically where do you want to be right now …doing what….are you being truthful with yourself or just answering because of a whim or wish?  You need to know if you are not already there.  It is a hard question because everyday things happen to us and those things change who we are and what we think.  SO right now today…what do you want if you could snap your fingers and make it so?  What is your goal.

How I can make it happen [for real]

Be realistic, you can want to be a rockstar or the president both things will require a lot of steps to happen before your get your shot.  What is important to actually change things and get to where you want to be is to figure out that first goal and do it.  To be simple about it all:

1.  What has to happen first….what do you need to get out of your way first.  What is STOPPING YOU from that first step….well that really is your first step is it not?; get rid of that, solve it. What is the second problem…..the third?
2.  Make a plan for solving each one of those problems.  Do not be overwhelmed.  Focus on them one at a time.  BUT thinking about each step in a process helps you make good sound decisions.  I highly recommend putting your thoughts on paper in a list, looking at it makes it much more real.  If you do everything in your head it will get jumbled and not be as important.  A piece of paper with your world on it right in front of you makes you think.

3.  ACT.  Who cares more about what you want then you?  It is your time, your life, your problem to solve.  If you spend all your time thinking about it, or blaming your situation or other people for how they behave with you, well you’re just wasting your time….remember it is the most precious thing you have and the most precious thing you can offer other people.  Nothing will change if you do not change it. DO NOT count on others, count on yourself.

4.  Believe in yourself.  Who knows you better then you.  Do not listen to people who tell you it is not possible.  However think about seeking advice from those you trust….ignore there emotional responses and use their experience to save you that most valuable thing you have, time. Be realistic and consider your actual experience if you do not know what your doing seek help.

Problems

We all go thru day to day life, we all deal with those we live with and it spends our most precious thing…time.  We all have our own personal issues that will hold us back in one way or another from our goals.  Those are not excuses to live on for why we are not the president or a rock star…..they are us being timid and afraid and a good lie to tell ourselves while we explain to some one else why we are not there.   We all have some kind of baggage, what are you willing to get rid of that is a hindrance to you, what are you not willing to.  This is the last of your list to put down on paper and the hardest to be honest about.  These things are choices,,,,most often our crutches and biggest time wasters…we choose to drag them along or not.

WELL?

Your life is yours, not your moms, dads, kids, cousins, bosses or anyone else’s. IT IS YOURS….if it sucks it is your own damm fault, you chose where you are….nobody else did…..if you think otherwise then you are not even ready for step #1.  Make it what you want while you can…you only get one shot.

I am a self absorbed ******* who TENDS to think I know whats up......I have been very wrong before. I have also been VERY right.

tommy