Shad,
I am with Henry and the others on that one. I also have personal experience with it. Before you go feeling sorry for yourself or letting it screw with your mind, consider my personal example.
Head: multiple scars on my scalp from a face plant into a car wind shield. Both ears re attached and plastic surgery to reform them. Knife scar on my chin, both eyes have scars over them.
Torso: two knife scars, 4 surgery scars. 14"s total.
Arms: 8" patch on the left from having it pealed off as road rash and resulting plastic/reconstructive surgeries. 9"s of scaring in the palm of the same arm/hand to reattach nerves severed in said face plant. Right hand missing a chunk of knuckle and associated skin from busting a knife against it's puller's teeth.
Left leg, shattered in 212 individual pieces in face plant car hit, 50" of related scar tissue. Two bullet holes in the upper thigh area, a later car wreck adding 5 more inches and taking 1/4 of my knee cap out. A chunk of my heel missing from a brown recluse bite, and reconstructive surgery scars from a crushed foot.
Right leg reattached at the knee from the the same face plant incident. another 18" of scars related to that.
32 surgerys before I was 18 and 5 more after.
Did any of that have one Iota of an effect on how I was percieved by woman? Yes
Was that perception bad, good or indifferent? It was truthfully a pain in the ass. All but 1 woman I ever dated could not help herself but ask how I got them. The one that didn't ask I am married to, and then after being married, she ask.
I don't know if it was the maternal thing, curiousity thing or what the hell it was, but the scars were like a freaking magnet.
The thing that did drive woman away in the early going of my life was showing I wasn't comfortable letting people see em. Once I said hell with it and ran them up the flag pole for all to see, that problem went away.
The worst thing you could do is attempt to hide them. There are not to many women out there that go for perceived or real lack of self confidence. Trying to hide the scars for whatever reason resulted in that appearance for me.
As for your divorce, it's never a good thing, but neither is living in misery. Move on, close the door and don't ever look back.
For what it's worth,
Gerald
Shad!!!
you're too self concious (?). When the white version of Shaq is standing in front of you--your not thinking about scars you can't even see.
Very good advice LH. One thing I'd like to add is to try and keep ALL communication by emails to cover your A** if necessary. All your property will be valued and the sad reality is she will get at least half in most states even if you have a lawyer. Going thru one myself right now and it's not fun or cheap.
