It is such a sad day when we can't depend on anyone's word. You would have to know me, my family and my religious convictions in order to fully grasp this: I TRUST EVERYONE.
I trust them to be human and fail me. They are looking out for themselves. I know, what a low view of my fellow man. Simply, we are all sinners. We all have our weaknesses. We have, are and will continue to fail ourselves, our families, our fellow man, and our God. Even those who regularly go to church. The salvation of the Bible did not totally remove sin and this world's influences from this sphere and my life.
We all have certain standards. I know that all I expect in this life comes from God, not my employer or anyone else. Expecting others to act and react the way we would, or like to think we would, is erroneous. It will lead to bitterness and depression.
It is in God's hands to give and to take, to give power to get (talents, skills, resources) and to remove that power. He puts up one and takes down another.
Bottom line: it is all me, my attitude, my spirit, to live life the best I can and not put too much on others. Pray for them and their success. Work for them like all that they have has been committed to your trust. Ultimately, if they fail, we have no job at all. And definitely no raise. Yeah, I've been lied to about the profits and ability to reward me for my work. But I have also seen it from the employer's perspective and seen what taxes, insurance, rent, utilities and so much more can do to what we thought was going to be a profitable year.
Tommy, I know (I think anyway that I do) what you mean. I have been let down by many more than I have been rewarded by. And in this current economy it isn't looking good at all. Try living in a right to work state. Talk about hard to make a living and pay good wages to your help.
Anyway, I have to live with how I work and be the example that the Lord would have me to be. I'm a long way from perfect as some of my posts would prove. I fail. I try to keep short accounts. And you can't always please everyone. About the time you think you are getting somewhere making things right, they want more. I have believed that I owed apologies even if I was only 1% in the wrong (and sometimes that is simple misunderstanding). But I don't always do it. And even when one does, the other doesn't accept it or doesn't understand it. Especially in print over the internet where communications are so fragile. Words are critical. Definitions must be common to both. And more.
Anyway, that is the way I believe I need to work. Part of why we changed things and went back to just family and do inspections. Easier to take care of things without being responsible for other peoples financial security.
Have a Great Day, Brent
I like to think I understand the human condition. While I want to believe people are basically good, past experience has proved otherwise.
I have learned some things over the years. Things change. People lie And some believe if things change then they have been lied to.
Also what you don't know is not the worst thing. What you think you do know that just aint so is the worst thing to believe.
I have given up on depending on others to make me happy and satisfied. If I agree to do a job for $X and the customer agrees, I expect them to pay me. If they can't I am not going to pi$$ and whine about it. I am gone. Just give me my last check and no hard feelings. But if I decide to stay, then all the grief is on me!
I have seen rig welders who take a single hand job bemoaning the fact they can do the cedar fence post broken heart crack of dawn thing and they are not appreciated because they have to take the single hand wages. But most single hand work does not require the skill level most rig welders have. Is it the contractors fault you have a skill set worth $50 per but the contractor has a skill need of $26? If you are willing to take $26 that does not make your skill set worth less.
Be looking for a job paying your perceived worth. And when that job becomes available, take it.
That day.
Companies have never has issue with immediate discharge of employees. Why do workers have issue with immediate discharge of employers?
But give up on that idea that in the "Old Days" workers were taken better care of and appreciated more. Like today there were some who did, but in general the employee/employer relationship has not changed since the dawn of the industrial revolution. While all employers will tout employees are their greatest asset, in reality, an employee is a liability.
Always.
A company has one responsibility. Make money.
It is not their responsibility to make you happy, well fed nor satisfied with your career.
A company has to provide a safe place to work, the equipment necessary to do that job, pay their bills, and operate legally.
That's it.
Give up on the idea it is somebody else's responsibility to make one happy or satisfied. It takes a mind change that YOU are responsible for where you are today. Not your employer, your family, the president or the congress.
It is you.
Treat others well, love your family and appreciate every day you get up in the morning, brush your teeth and wipe your own butt without assistance.